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joeymichaels) wrote2016-10-14 01:19 pm
joeymichaels) wrote2016-10-14 01:19 pm
Ten Year Olds, Dude
“I’ll be dating her in 10 years. Can you believe it?”
Some of you might remember my formula for calculating appropriate ages a person can date without meeting societal disapproval. Basically, take your own age,divided it in half and add 7. For example, I'm 48 so the youngest person I can date without ooging people out is 31. I think that's reasonable. Yeah Yeah age is just a number, but age difference can suggest power difference and a big power difference isn't always healthy in a romantic relationship.
Anyhow, so Trump is 70. Were he to be single again, I'd expect him to stuck to women 42 years and up.
When I first started teaching high school, I was 27 (lowest age range: 21). I had some male friends who said gross things like "oh you get to hand around wuth all those hot teenage girls." I was all like "what the fuck?"
The first year I was teaching, I had to chaperone the prom. One of the 18 year old women (lowest age for date: 16; highest age: 22) arrived with her 30 year old boyfriend (low: 22, high 46). He was older than me and wanted to sit with the chaperones, not his girlfriend's friends. Sorry, dude, you date a teenager, you have to hang out with teenagers.
I get being attracted to youth especially as I get older but i don't get why you'd want to date somebody that had almost no shared life experiences - and almost no experience at life. This if what that formula is partially about - the range of people you can date expands as you get older and theta greater odds of shared life experience and shared power levels.
I know every relationship is different and maybe there's some March/December romances out there that work perfectly well. The thought of a 50+ year old man bragging about dating a ten year old when she ages up to 20, however, squicks me out.
Some of you might remember my formula for calculating appropriate ages a person can date without meeting societal disapproval. Basically, take your own age,divided it in half and add 7. For example, I'm 48 so the youngest person I can date without ooging people out is 31. I think that's reasonable. Yeah Yeah age is just a number, but age difference can suggest power difference and a big power difference isn't always healthy in a romantic relationship.
Anyhow, so Trump is 70. Were he to be single again, I'd expect him to stuck to women 42 years and up.
When I first started teaching high school, I was 27 (lowest age range: 21). I had some male friends who said gross things like "oh you get to hand around wuth all those hot teenage girls." I was all like "what the fuck?"
The first year I was teaching, I had to chaperone the prom. One of the 18 year old women (lowest age for date: 16; highest age: 22) arrived with her 30 year old boyfriend (low: 22, high 46). He was older than me and wanted to sit with the chaperones, not his girlfriend's friends. Sorry, dude, you date a teenager, you have to hang out with teenagers.
I get being attracted to youth especially as I get older but i don't get why you'd want to date somebody that had almost no shared life experiences - and almost no experience at life. This if what that formula is partially about - the range of people you can date expands as you get older and theta greater odds of shared life experience and shared power levels.
I know every relationship is different and maybe there's some March/December romances out there that work perfectly well. The thought of a 50+ year old man bragging about dating a ten year old when she ages up to 20, however, squicks me out.
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They had issues. He'd bitch about her behavior much of the time. We always told him that the age gap between them was too great, she's 20 years old, SHE'S A KID, of course she's going to act like that! Gradually we learned that my coworker's *issues* had a lot to do with why he'd choose to date someone that young.
They broke up back during the summer. Last we heard she's dating a guy much closer to her age and my coworker's attempting to play the field with women closer to his age. He's dated one a few times. We'll see if it sticks.
ETA: I've always been the older party in all my relationships. SO is 5 years younger than me. The only man I dated who was older than me (by 2 years) was my ex-fiance. I could've never, ever dated a man *that* much older than me. Conversely I could've never dated a man *that* much younger than me, especially since I'd now probably be their mother's age :shudder:
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